Coming Out As Kinky – Hristo
Being kinky is one thing, but coming out as kinky and telling other guys about it, that’s a tricky step for some. We decided to do a little research and find out how other kinky guys tell new people about their fetishes. We reached out to a filthy bastard from Spain, and a kinky bear from Bulgaria, to find out about their dating habits. What kinks are they into and when do they tell the new guys about their kinky side?
This is the first interview in Coming Out As Kinky – Hristo, the Bulgarian Bear, part two will be released in due time.
The Interview
Hey Hristo, can you tell me a little bit about yourself?
“My name’s Hristo and I am 33 years old, originally from Bulgaria. I moved to the Netherlands in September 2008, because of love. I was in a 3-way relationship for nearly 10 years.”
“I’m into hairy, scruffy, masculine guys with no attitude. I am heading for a meltdown once I spot tall, bearded fellas with a cheeky smile. I am into sportswear and I love cruising outdoors a lot!”
The Question of Kink
Are you kinky?
“I am not quite sure what kinky is, these days. I guess everyone is more or less kinky in a way of having something specific act or a fantasy (or combination of both) that turns them on. Even those who only practice vanilla sex, God knows what is going through their mind during the sexual act. They are just too shy to share their thoughts, maybe?”
“It also takes two to play that game – I mean, if there is no chemistry between the partners, it is pointless to even try. But hey… let’s put it this way – I don’t consider myself kinky, but I can be kinky with the right person.”
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Coming Clean about your Filth
When do you tell a new guy about your kinky tastes?
“If it is face-to-face – I tell them straight away. Most of the time I don’t even need to explain myself. Just a cheeky look in the eyes is enough to figure it out.”
“If it’s online – that’s mentioned on all my profiles. But this is not mandatory and really depends on how I feel and what I am looking for at that specific moment. Sex for me is an impulsive act. Sex, which is planned upfront, is called porn!”
Rejection
Has anyone ever said no or dropped you for coming out as kinky?
“I was about to say no on prima vista… but it actually happened quite a few times. For instance, some guys don’t feel safe to practice outdoors late at night with a complete stranger and I completely understand that. But as the saying goes, ‘The ones who are afraid of bears, don’t go into the forest.’ Literally!”
Other Sex
Do you enjoy vanilla sex?
“Yes. I do. I believe that the vanilla sex can be as interesting as exciting as kinky sex full of fetishes.”
Best Sex Ever?
“Well… It happened recently. It was last summer with current boyfriend (and future husband (PS: I love you, T!!!)). I am not going to get into details, but we were going for hours experimenting different things… as we are completely open to each other about everything, I trust him completely. It was not just sex… it was more like an ultimate sensation, an explosion of positive emotions, act full of ecstasy and pleasure. But I am convinced that there are even better sexual experiences ahead for both of us. And for everyone!”
Kink for Kink
As long as you’re being honest about yourself and respectful to others, you’re likely to meet other kinky guys for great sex. A lot of kinky guys have a certain look or energy that lets others know, they’d be happy enough to have rough or experimental sex. But for some guys the fact that they don’t look kinky, makes it even hotter when they do get up to sexy mischief.
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