The Gay Guide to Rimming
The majority of gay men know about rimming, and many of us have experienced it already. For newcomers, here’s a rim definition, just to make sure we’re all on the same page.
Rimming: The act of using one’s tongue on the anal rim of another person to gain and/or give sexual pleasure. It’s also known as, ass eating, salad tossing, anilingus, etc.
If you’ve rimmed or been rimmed, you’ll already know it’s a truly intimate and horny act. If you are new to rimming, this may inspire you to give it a go. This is our Gay Guide to Rimming. All sexual practices come with the chance of pleasure and of course the potential risk of an STI, before engaging in any sexual activity make sure your know the risks.
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Prepare to be rimmed
Clean the area, a soapy shower is usually good enough. If you feel like douching, that’s fine, as rimming can often lead to sex, but if you are sure you’re not getting boned today, then a good soapy wash is usually enough for rimming. Dry your hole and get ready to be rimmed. Think about your manscape (hair), a shaved ass is excellent for extra sensitivity, but a hairy hole is excellent for general delicious odors. Make a choice and go for it.
Foreplay
You’ve arrived at that point in your sexy play with a hot guy, or your lover, or both, and you’re ready to eat ass like a king. Sink your nose in-between his butt cheeks, and take in that awesome scent of man sex. Your tongue is ready to enjoy the feast that is the anus. But before we get there, let’s slow it down. The expectation of your lover to feel your tongue on, in, or around his hole, is a point to arrive at. Taking your time to get there could heighten his enjoyment and sensitivity. So, lick his crack, smell his skin, and use your hands to massage his butt cheeks. Get your face fully in there, hum (your favorite tune, or pop diva anthem), and make love to his derriere. Be 100% committed to this beautiful ass event. Now kiss, lick and slide your face further to your destination point. You should arrive at the butt hole and take a deep breath.
Rimming – Active/Top
Pull back, enjoy the gorgeous view and breathe hot air on his ass to titillate. Lean closer in and spit on his hole, now rub it in with your nose and lick up his crack. Push your full flat tongue up against his pucker. Begin to lick and dip that tongue in as hard as you can, like eating an ice cream cone.
Let’s get deeper
The tongue is a muscle, so even your hardest, firmest tongue will still feel soft and gorgeous to your lover’s butt. You can lick the rim, and use your breath and chin rubs to increase pleasure.
Bonus Tip: Use your fingers to tickle his balls, or gently push into his ass a little. Mixing it up from a little shallow fingering to further rimming is a winning combination.
Beard, stubble, or bare chin
If you have a beard, this can make buffing and ‘tugboating’ the ass a lot of fun. If you have stubble or three-day growth, your prickly chin is likely to irritate rather than excite. If you are clean shaven or have a full beard, go full on butt munching into him. If you’re scruffy, then use your nose, tongue, and lips, but leave your chin out of this.
Perineum – a stop on the way to cock
Now let’s talk about the patch of skin between the ass and the balls. It’s got a few names: the taint, the gooch, the guiche, the disco pad, the perineum, or your scratch patch. It looks like the part of the human body where the seam is. It’s a pleasure hotspot and a nice place to explore, as you transfer from rimming to cock-worship. While sucking on his gooch, keep gently playing with his ass and get the dick good and hard. This is multi-tasking at its finest, and only the truly gifted can make it all work. We believe in you, you can do this!
Don’t forget about your own pleasure too
You can spend a little time pleasing your man and hitting all his hot spots, but also feel free to flip it around and serve your own ass for dinner too.
Rimming – Passive/Bottom
Let’s look at serving your own butt as a delicious dish. When you arrive at the moment where he is rimming you, you have a few jobs to do. First up, enjoy it, let go, relax your butt muscles, and lean back into his mouth. Let him know when he is doing it right with moans and gentle movement. The number one turn on for a guy rimming you is to feel you push your hole into his tongue for even deeper licking. The truly talented receiver will build a butt-to-tongue rhythm pushing and clenching in time with his ravenous licking. Get it, and get it good. Then if he decides to move to your taint and start working on your dick, that’s great. If not, enjoy the rimming for as long as it’s turning you both on. After you’ve been ‘serviced’ it’s only polite to return the favor or move on to the next part of the sex. Whether that’s blow jobs, kissing, banging, or whatever else, you guys decide.
Communication
Enjoying sex is about clear communication, but that’s not just talking, it’s about moaning, physical approval, encouragement, giving and receiving. If there’s something you don’t enjoy, stop and do something else. If you want more tongue, deeper beard brushing, or more ass fingering, don’t be afraid to say it. Giving or taking direction can help improve the whole event enormously for all participants. 😉
Conclusion
Rimming is one of the most beautiful things you can do during sex. It’s that moment when your tongue is pressed up against a hot wet hole, or your ass is up against someone’s warm juicy tongue – heaven!
Suggestions
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Protect yourself
Your sexual health is your responsibility and sexual activity can bring the risk of exposure to sexually transmitted infections/diseases (STIs/STDs). Regular testing is critical to your health and can help prevent the spread of STIs. Always consult with a doctor or health care professional for information regarding prevention, treatment and testing.